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20130825-212857.jpgAnother Party Same Outfit, Same Hair. She Would Look Like This Every Day If I Let Her!!

20130825-213038.jpgMiss Independent – I’ll Only Eat If I Do It Myself!

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Niamh – We had one of your old daycare friends’ birthday parties this weekend and you were so excited to see the old gang again. You miss them so much and they miss you too. It’s so beautiful seeing you all together, your excitement at reuniting, the love you all have for each other. You were also so helpful, handing out birthday cake to all the kids, and making sure everyone was happy. I love seeing the gentle caring side of you.

Harper – OMG child slow down. You want to spend all of your time on your tummy and refuse to roll over still. You try to get your legs under you and pull with your arms. Please stay little for a while longer, I can’t fathom you crawling yet! You have become so co-ordinated with your hands and easily grab and pull things, and successfully transfer them to your mouth. In your play table you are able to push things across the table, around in circles and up and down. Where has my baby gone?

Declan – You have become extremely social this week and have also discovered mummy “disappears” when you can’t see her. This has lead to a very full on week of always being spoken to and having mummy in eyesight, or tears and tantrums begin. You are developing an aversion to your middle big sister (Harper) touching you but I don’t blame you. I know she does it out of love but clawing your face does not look fun for you. You are more settled when you sleep and your tantrums when you are put to bed are decreasing. You are such a happy little man.

Bonus photo – Sibling Love, Nothing Sweeter

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My favourite 33/52 blog can be found over at summerplayshouse. Gorgeous Eloise, such a happy looking little girl with a beautiful smile that lights up the frame!!

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Leibster Award

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A big thank you to Bel over at Life @ No. 2 for my nomination for a Liebster Award. ‘What is a Liebster Award?’ I hear you ask. Well it’s simple. It’s an award for the little guys in the blogging pool. Those that have under 200 followers on their blog or likers on their Facebook page. It’s a way to reward and support those who are starting out. It has a quirky connection to the number 11 whereby you have to answer 11 questions from your nomination, tell 11 facts about yourself, select 11 blogs to nominate, and ask those bloggers 11 questions. Still a little hazy on the details, or I’ve nominated you below and you want to know what you have to do, go to this blog by Runnin Off At The Mouth for a more detailed overview.

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My questions from the talented Bel:

1. What is on your bedside table? A picture says a thousand words.

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2. What are you reading at the moment? The memory keepers daughter by Kim Edwards, Save Our Sleep by Tizzie Hall (the stuff on introducing solids) and next in line The Complete Works of Jane Austen. That is of course when I have time to read which is, uh, never.

3. What is your first childhood memory? I’m not exactly sure how old I am but considering its at our first house I would be 3 or under. I am standing in the corner of the fence, leaning over and dangling my mum’s life sized pink panther over the fence, snatching it away when the dog behind us tries to grab it. Not sure how it ended but remember pink panther being around for many more years so can’t have been too bad.

4. Where is your favourite place to escape to?. The country. Doesn’t matter where. I just need tress, green grass, meadows, horses, cows, fresh air, rolling hills. Peace. We will one day get our country property and I know that’s when I will truly feel home.

5. Chocolate pudding or sticky date?. Chocolate, no contest. It’s not desert unless chocolate is involved!!

6. If you had to chose your favourite meal, what would it be and who would cook it?. Oh so hard, so very very hard. Um my hubby’s lasagne, cooked by him of course. It’s delicious and it also means I didn’t have to cook. Although pretty much anything I don’t have to cook tastes amazing lol

7. It’s Friday night what are you doing?. Waiting for the kids to all be asleep so I can go to bed too. So sad I know.

8. Did you attend University? Yep. Went to Melbourne Uni and got my Bachelor of Education (Primary). Also currently on intermission but studying a postgraduate degree at Monash Uni in Psychology. One subject to go and I have another qualification.

9. Do you believe in woo woo? (Spirits, Crystals, Tarot, etc). Very much so. I have had many things predicted accurately by two different psychics (both work at the same place in Bacchus Marsh funnily enough). Things like my Dad’s stroke, having twins (including the female being eldest even though doctors continually said Declan would be born first due to his position), and my Poppy’s health problems.

10. What is your staple piece of clothing? PJ’s bahahaha. Um in all seriousness a pair of dark jeans or a plain long sleeved top. Can wear anything with them, dress them up or down with accessories.

11. Do you believe in karma?YES. I try to treat others the way I would want to be treated and instead of trying to get ‘revenge’ on someone believe karma will come back to nite them on the ass one day. I also try to help anyone and everyone I can.

11 Random Facts About Myself:

1. I have a very varied taste in music. I don’t like just one style and you can find on my play list on any given day rap, rock, pop, classical, instrumental and r’n’b. And that’s just today.

2. If I could be any character from a book it would definitely be Elizabeth Bennett from Pride and Prejudice. I really admire her strength, spirit and courage. Plus I am in love with Mr Darcy!

3. I feel awkward in most social circumstances and constantly worry what other people think about me.

4. I have a lot of acquaintances but only a few real friends. These people I would do anything for because I know they feel the same about me. These are the people who know the real me and accept me.

5. I know I am annoying. I talk too much and can be loud. These are actually bad traits formed to cover up the fact of how nervous and uncertain I feel around people.

6. I love reading and would rather do this than watch TV or anything else. I can tune out pretty much anything when I read and become one with the story.

7. I once met Robert Jordan (my favourite author) and it was one of the most amazing experiences ever.

8. I am not a big fan of fruit. I eat apples, pears, watermelon, bananas, and cantaloupe. That’s about it.

9. I HATE cooking. With a passion. My version of cooking involves a lot of packets and jars. Quick and easy. Any recipe that has more than 5 steps or even sounds complicated I don’t even try. I will wash 1000 dishes to get out of cooking.

10. I am a perfectionist. People who know what my home and work spaces look like don’t believe this but it’s true. I am so focused on having things perfect there are times I don’t even start. (E.g. Clothes are hung by type – shirts, sub-type – sleeve length, then colour). It’s exhausting and I am trying hard to over come this. My mantra ‘It doesn’t have to be perfect it just has to be done’.

11. I knew my hubby over 5 years before we started dating and he dated a couple of my friends beforehand (years before we got together though). AND the first night we finally got together we were at The Peel in Richmond for a friends birthday.

The blogs I am nominating for this award (some of whom I know have been nominated previously but trying to get as close to my 11 as possible):

Saradipity -Sarah is new to the blogging world, has a little boy and many stories to tell. She is also the sister of one of my closest friends.

Wild Child On Board – Kathryn and I met years ago when I was working with her best friend at KMart. She is also my very talented hairdresser (ie first person other than my sister to do my hair and have me love it). She has a beautiful daughter and a little boy on the way.

No Frills Mum – Dre and I used to teach together and she has written blogs for very reasons. This is the blog where she shares her motherhood journey and life.

Positivelysarcastic – The title of this blog had me intrigued from the start. I am a very sarcastic person, I think it’s a great medium for humour. She is also a mum of twins, although older than mine, and has twin skin that she likes to call Tonya.

Renovation: Rosedale – After watching Renovation Rescue and The Block my love of renovating resurfaced (it disappeared while doing it myself lol) and so I trawled bloglovin’ for some blogs to inspire me for one day down the track. Ellie and her husband have just bought a house in Austin, Texas. I loved her design inspiration, it’s exactly what I would do if I was fully renovating a house.

Bear Creek Honey – Elizabeth is also a mummy to boy / girl twins and they are only 7 months old. I love read her blog to get an idea of what’s coming up next for me. She is also a big one for musings and talking about life.

Michimama – A new blogger and mum to a young child. She has a great philosophy on life and shares some great parenting related links.

Ladies your 11 questions are:

1. Where is your ultimate holiday destination?

2. If you could have one wish come true what would it be?

3. What are you scared of?

4. Toilet paper roll – over or under?

5. Where did you meet your partner and how old were you when you first started dating?

6. What is your favourite kids show?

7. Who is your hero and why?

8. If you could meet anyone, living or dead, who would it be?

9. Look left, what do you see?

10. Do you have a five or ten year plan?

11. Who is your celebrity crush?

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20130819-130741.jpgSo Excited About Going To A Party

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I have decided that this 52 Project is entitled ‘Happiness Is …’ and I’m just going to write about all the ways you show happiness.

Niamh – You dance around the house like a ballerina. Leaping, twirling, hands and feet in ‘position’ (whatever that is). You dress up and clunk around in high heels calling yourself Princess Niamh, bowing to your subjects. You snuggle up close to me on the couch and kiss my arm. You continually tell me you love me and I reply I love you to the moon and back. You don’t want to go to bed at night because you want to stay with us. You have a beautiful heart and love your brother and sister with all your heart. Hugging, kissing, snuggling and playing with them, making them laugh so hard they shake. I chose a blurry photo of you this week, not because I didn’t have beautiful and clear photos of you but because this one shows your absolute joy.

Harper – The second you see me walk into the room to get you out of bed your whole face lights up with the biggest of smiles. Sometimes you even laugh in joy. You love pulling toys, strings, clothes and hair. You prefer tummy time to anything else and crack the sads if you have to roll back over, even if you are too tired to stay on your front. I suppose that explains the whole no longer rolling question. You love the red chew monkey and the purple elephant. You LOVE Niamh and ignore everyone else if she is around, she always gets your loudest laughs. You try to roll over onto your tummy but get stuck on your side. It doesn’t phase you though just a different way to play. You are a mummy’s girl and your best snuggles always come to me.

Declan – When you wake up you grin and have the biggest stretch. When you see me come into the room you kick your legs in excitement. You are extremely talkative and can make so many different sounds. Like a typical male you are more willing to talk when busy, especially when getting your nappy changed. I am sure you are telling me all about your dreams. You love the musical mobile and talk away to it as you smack the toys and make the songs play. You would rather play on your back because tummy time makes you vomit. You also love Niamh more than anyone and she gets your best belly chuckles. However, your favourite time of the night is bath time. You laugh, kick and splash in total excitement and love having the water run over your head.

My favourite 32/52 blog post was over at Angels Have Red Hair. Two very happy boys and the memory of an important milestone, getting your L’s.

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The Positivity Files Are Dead

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I’ve been thinking for a while about my 50th post and what it should be about. It just seems like such a milestone and something to be proud of. And I am proud, so very proud of myself, for getting to the big 5-0. So I decided that this post should be about me. Not me the mother, me the wife, me the teacher, me the whatever else. Just me, stripped bear, the real me.

I came to this decision after having a revelation. A revelation about The Positivity Files. I was finding them so hard to write, to keep track of things, to make time for writing them. It’s not that I don’t feel positive or have really great things happen, big and small, every day, because I do. So why was I having so much trouble? Why couldn’t I write these posts? Why was I avoiding them?

It took a while but I think I have figured it out. It’s a little complicated cause that’s how I roll. At the start of the year in this post here I set myself a word for the year, instead of a New Years Resolution. That word was positivity. I chose that word because I felt like I was being very negative at the time. However on looking back I am unsure if it was me thinking I was too negative or if it was people around me telling me I was being too negative. And that’s where my problem begins.

I think it’s ok to share negative thoughts and experiences. I think it’s ok to recognise negative things are happening and express that. I think it’s ok to feel negative when things aren’t going your way. It’s not that I don’t recognise or enjoy the positive things, I do, but I also know that there are crap things that happen. I truly believe that to enjoy and experience the positive you have to allow yourself to experience the negative. Without sadness there is no happiness.

Then there is the fact that since setting myself that word I truly believe the universe has been testing me. Trying to see how committed I am to this word. There are some things that have happened this year that have been truly shit. At one stage I felt like a whole heap of shit was being shovelled on top of me and burying me underneath it. I also felt like I wasn’t allowed to say this because, after all, I’m too negative. That was a bad decision and actually lead me to experiencing more negativity, in the form of guilt and pain. Not only was I going through a crap time I was making myself wrong for feeling like it was crap. Dear Universe, my commitment is wafer thin, perhaps non-existent. Thank you for showing me this.

Now don’t get me wrong, there are some people out there who can turn every negative into a positive, who can see the bright side of things, and who truly believe just by thinking positive things will be so. I am envious of them but I have also realised that is not me. By trying to force myself into being someone I am not, by making myself wrong whenever I did feel or think negatively, I was making myself feel worse.

So the dilemma. I could continue the positivity files and create another set of negativity files, but that didn’t feel right either. I could just keep trying with the positivity files but in all honesty I think they are boring and too airy fairy for me. It isn’t something I would personally chose to read so why would I continue writing them? I don’t want to seek out the positive or negative, I just want to experience life, in all it’s forms and with whatever it sends my way. I don’t want to feel wrong for experiencing it my way, or for sharing how I feel.

I have made a promise to myself. I am just going to be me. If I am unhappy with something about myself I will ask myself why. Is it because I feel that way, I think I should feel that way, or others are making me feel that way? Only the first answer is good enough for me to make changes. Otherwise those changes are just going to make me feel worse. I am me and I like who I am. I don’t want to be what everyone else (or anyone else) wants me to be. Well enough so that I am going to work on making sure I am acting and being a way that is what I think is right, that feels right for me.

Have you had any big revelations lately? Do you act in certain ways because you feel it is expected of you but not who you are? Have you overcome this? If yes please share how 🙂

Nesting All Wrong

In the last couple of weeks I have noticed that I am doing what can only be described as nesting. Now I know this sounds very weird, I mean I’m not pregnant and haven’t been for a good 4 months, but I have a theory on this (I always have a theory right or wrong lol).

See when I was pregnant, right about that time when nesting kicks in, I was pretty much incapacitated. I was on crutches, walking was excruciating, hell sitting, standing and lying down hurt too. To get for the couch to the toilet and back was an excursion in bravery and pain management. So I guess my brain decided to be helpful and forgo the whole nesting thing. Pretty nice of it if you ask me.

However my brain must have also decided that nesting was vitally important, albeit not a critical part of this whole growing a baby thing, and so it sat back and waited. It waited for me to recover from my Caesar. It waited for me to get the hang of caring for two newborn babies and a 4 year old. It waited until I started to get myself more organised. It waited for the housework to start being done on a more regular basis. And then it sprung. Hello unstoppable desire to clean, organise, sell off unwanted or unused items, and a never ending shopping spree to spruce up the place.

So far I haven been behaving myself and have bought most of the items second hand or been gifted them by friends (even when trying to force money on them like some kind of crazed ATM). I have sold off the buffet, coffee table that was a TV stand, bar stools and many other items. In their place I have a proper lowline TV unit, a play centre for Niamh with her table and chairs and a new book display unit for the colouring books, reorganised toys and draws, bought an activity table for the twins, and bought a book display for Niamh’s bedroom. Oh and the item that started it all, a new rug so the twins would have warm backs when playing on the floor. This very cheap rug. I love deals direct!!

But the piece-de-resistance has to be my new table that is on order. This beautiful table that I have been lusting after for such a long time. I have wanted a table that looked somewhat like this since hubby and I first moved in together 8 odd years ago! It is just divine, with chocolate chairs and metal inlay details. The big bonus, we managed to get it on sale. I can’t wait for it to come home and live with us. A close second is a gorgeous second-hand executive desk I got for a steal over on gumtree AND it doesn’t have a gross green leather inlay. I hate green. Of course there is no longer a computer to live on this desk, but I’m hoping our tax returns will help provide a new Mac to take care of that problem.

I’m so happy and filled with euphoria over my nesting blitz that I thought I would share some images of my new look living spaces and items.

20130811-225516.jpgMy beautiful desk, at least 15 years in the desiring.

20130815-144525.jpgThe rug, TV unit, and toys organised. There are 5 tubs of baby toys to be rotated, PS3 games in alphabetical order, Wii games in alphabetical order, Wii miscellaneous stuff, an educational games tub, play dough, spare colouring books and paper, and colouring / craft. There is a box of craft odds and ends and the red tub has a baby train set.

20130815-144835.jpgNiamh’s baby swing out of storage and cleaned up. This one is for playing, the other two for sleeping

20130815-144917.jpgNiamh’s craft area. She has a whole room for her toys,etc but this is for the messy stuff I want to watch her do (to stop ruined carpet and/or walls syndrome!)

20130815-145032.jpgThe new book display. This way favourite books can be kept in Niamh’s room instead of spread from the toy room up the hall

20130815-145125.jpgBarbies live here. A. Drawer for dolls, one for clothes, one for the car and other accessories

20130815-145212.jpgHad this for a while but now organised the movies. High 5, princesses / barbies / Disney females, Disney, wiggles and TV shows, kids movies, older kids movies

Now I know I could have “styled” my house and photos but that wasn’t the point. I am never going to win any prizes for a neat and tidy house, or be featured in Home Decor or any other home magazines. I just wanted to show off what I’ve been busy doing. These photos are the real me, tidy chaos and all lol

Have you undertaken any projects you are proud of lately?

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20130810-221730.jpgEvery Occasion Deserves A Pose, Even Apple Eating!

20130810-221829.jpgOoooh Who Is That In The Phone???

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Niamh – Oh my word was the first half of this week difficult yet again. By Wednesday morning you had a ban on TV, the iPad, no toys to sleep with, no barbies to play with, no cooking on Thursday, and had been sent to your room so many times I had lost count. Then I refused to take you to the play centre to see your friends. I was not rewarding your disgusting behaviour (like hissing and spitting at me on top of all your usual naughty things) even though that meant I missed out on catching up with friends. Then along came Dr Phil. Thank God for Dr Phil. We usually have him on in the background as I make lunch and this episode was definitely Heaven sent. As you enquirer “Mummy why is that girl crying?” I was able to answer honestly that she wanted to stay with her parents but Dr Phil was sending her to a special camp to learn how to be nice to her family again. You agreed the videos they were showing of her were “disgusting” and “she’s a naughty girl isn’t she mum”. The opening to a great discussion about how you have been behaving. You still can’t vocalise if anything is bothering you, and you usually can, so either it’s just nothing but being 4, or you don’t even know. Either way the rest of the week was lovely.

Harper – This week your appetite is back, Thank God. I’ve learnt to wait until you complain and tell me in no uncertain terms you are hungry, otherwise I might as well tip the bottle down the sink. Night wakings have again becoming a common occurrence and I have no idea why. You don’t really want your dummy, you won’t drink a bottle and even after your nappy is changed the waking every 10 minutes continues for around an hour. I think maybe you just want everyone to know you’re awake and not happy about it. You are becoming very nifty with those hands of yours and can grab things (both big and little) and everything now goes into your mouth. One of your favourite things at the moment is grabbing the red teething monkey from your play gym and attacking it like a shark. Your other favourite thing is your big sister. You worship her and when she is in the room no-one else gets a look in. I believe poor Niamh will have a shadow once you are on the move.

Declan – Oh my poor little sick man. Yesterday your voice went hoarse and I thought it was yet another problem with your reflux. Either way your drastic increase in refluxing had me worried so I took you to the doctor. Your check up was going well: no fever, ears looked good, chest sounded good (even though to me you sounded rattle) but then we got to the throat. Your poor swollen, red raw throat. So infected you had pus on your right tonsil. You are such a brave little man and must have a huge pain threshold as you have been your usual happy self. Laughing, talking and playing like nothing was wrong. On the talking front you have two new sounds bwa and th. So very cute watching you discover new ways to make sound.

Last week my favourite 31/52 blog post was over at Orangemush. A gorgeous bubba in the early morning light, and a little diva in her car seat looking oh so cool.

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Giving Back

I have decided to start a new series on this blog. This series will be of no gain to myself and will not be sponsored. It’s all about me supporting others. I really liked the book Pay It Forward (never seen the movie but want to) and this is my way of following the concept. I love the idea of doing something to help someone for no other reason than I can.

This series will feature blog posts about small businesses, predominantly mumpreneurs (although no sexism here dadpreneurs welcome too) and small business owners who I believe offer high-quality goods and services. I am thinking it will run as an interview with a little bio and links to the businesses. I will also include photos, info and a review of whatever good/s and/or services I accessed.

I am not planning on this being a regular occurrence, like a monthly blog, but will just write a post when I feel I have something to share. I will not be asking (or accepting) ANYTHING from these businesses. However they will be businesses I have used myself previously. I will also not feature businesses that I have not used myself or that I am not 100% happy with. It’s just my way of sharing things that I have sourced for myself that I loved. If I love them maybe you would too, or that’s what my thinking is. Basically, just like in the real world, where I would tell my friends about great services and goods I had received, it’s me telling my online friends the same thing.

I already have a couple of businesses lined up or in mind. In the interests of being open and honest some are friends. Again, I would not recommend just because of this, I’m not into nepotism. Some are also complete strangers. Actually the first two I have in mind are people I do not personally know but were recommended to me through word of mouth.

I’m not exactly sure what to call this series, so any ideas are welcome. Maybe even just Paying It Forward – business name??

If you have a business, or would like to recommend a business you love, that could be included in this series, you can email me their details at: thebusymumma@gmail.com

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20130806-200240.jpgLooking At Me With Love In Her Eyes

20130806-200345.jpgGorgeous Little Man Becoming Such A Chubba

Niamh – Lost: Kind little girl who cares for others, uses her manners, speaks nicely and shows love. Found: Angry little girl who yells and shouts, speaks rudely to others including strangers, throws massive tantrums, cries over nothing and hisses at her mummy. Would love to trade this found child for the one I have lost, I really miss her love and happy nature. Not sure where she went and not sure why.

Harper – Oh my lord the love you have for your mummy is truly amazing. You love to throw yourself forwards to give me kisses and have a special smile just for when I come into your vision. We have a couple of new talents. My least favourite is the dummy throw. You have figured out how to take your dummy out of your mouth and then toss it away. Pity you still want it. You are also starting to get your knees under your body. Not quite all the way yet but closer each day. Slow down bubba there is plenty of time for that.

Declan – You have put on so much weight lately, obviously all you needed was a formula that didn’t go straight through you! Unfortunately you are still getting facial rashes from your formula and your reflux is just getting worse and worse with each passing day. You are now on the maximum dose of losec and yet the projectile vomitting is increasing. You are also now getting silent symptoms and you have a cough and hoarse voice that the paediatrician thinks might also be the reflux. Increased reflux symptoms can indicate you need a fully hydrolysed formula, geez I hope not. I also hope it all settles down for you soon, you have been through so much already you deserve a break.

Last week my favourite 30/52 post was over at The Beetle Shack. Zephe, Pippi and Elke are just gorgeous but my favourite photo of the three is definitely Zephe hiding in the pizza oven. So gorgeous.

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